How types communicate

Communication

We cannot not communicate. We are always communicating – whether we speak or don’t speak. Communication is about what we say, how we say it, when we choose not to say something, how we listen, and when we stop listening.

The first preference dimension, Extraversion/Introversion, relates to people’s styles in interacting and engaging in conversations. The second, Sensing/Intuition, typically influences the kinds of information people focus on when speaking, listening or writing. The third, Thinking/Feeling, may relate most directly to the individual’s decision to participate or to tune out. And the final one, Judging /Perceiving, impacts the structure and style of communications.

Pacing

Pacing – the rate at which information is conveyed and communication takes place – is an important type-related difference among people and a frequent source of frustration. The following summary of typical pacing needs may help reduce the frustration:

Extraversion - Introversion

  • Extraverts (E) typically give information quickly and want to receive it quickly. They like conversations, meetings and communications to be fast paced
  • Introverts (I) typically want a somewhat slower pace in verbal information exchanges – time for their reflection process and a space for their observations.

Sensing and Thinking (ST) types base their pacing on what it takes to get things done; their pacing can have a kind of steamroller effect on others

Sensing and Feeling (SF) types base their pacing on others around them; their desire to include everyone can seem unnecessarily slow to others

Intuition and Feeling (NF) types base their pacing on communicating their ideas with power and persuasiveness; their pacing may frustrate others who want to get to the specifics and realities

Intuition and Thinking (NT) types base their pacing on their own ideas and explanatory patterns; their desire to give the complete, complex picture as a whole may make others feel impatient

Judging - Perceiving

  • Judging (J) types typically want a clear, structured, and fairly quick pace: “We’ll spend give minutes discussing the problem and getting everyone’s input then we’ll vote.”
  • Perceiving (P) types may not share a clear preference for speed or slowness, but they will typically want flexibility and room for adjustments , which does slow down decision-making.

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